Wednesday in the Third Week of Lent


  • You will need as many different spaces for meeting as there are small groups.
  • For each space, create circles with chairs, or have the group meet around a table.
  • For the first session, have a list prepared for who is which small group, and where that small group will be meeting. It is very important that these groups be consistent each week; if there will be people dropping in and out, create a catch-all small group for those folks.
  • Optional: set up devotional helps. This may be a candle, a cross, an icon, or something else that will remind the group that their time together is blessed by God. They may be placed in the center of the table or in some other visible place.
  • A written agenda that gives time allotments, i.e. Gathering Prayer 5 minutes, Check-In 20 minutes.
  • Space to worship together after the small groups meet.

Agenda for Wednesday Evenings:

  • Meal together (at least 30 minutes before start of program; do not try to eat and do small groups at the same time)
  • Gathering Prayer in Large Group (5 minutes)
  • Check-in in Small Groups (20 minutes)
  • Small Group Activities/Conversations (50 minutes)
  • Check-out in Small Groups (5 minutes)
  • Worship in Large Group (10 minutes)

Needed materials:

  • Meeting Jesus in the Gospel of John prayer journals for each participant.
  • Books of Common Prayer for each participant. Hymnals optional.
  • A bible for use during worship.
  • Newsprint and markers.
  • Writing utensils for participants.

Learning outcomes:

  • Participants will be able to articulate what it means to have intimacy with God.

Gathering Prayer (Large Group):

A parish leader invite participants to be seated comfortably. Invite participants into a period of silence. You may wish to keep silence for 1-4 minutes. If your participants are unused to long periods of silence, you may wish to start with one minute this week and progressively lengthen the silence by 30 seconds each week. However long is decided, the leader should let the group know how long it will be, and that she is keeping time. At the end of the silence, pray this or another suitable prayer:

Jesus, just as you lived in intimate union and daily communion with your Father, so draw us to yourself in love that we may live in this same intimacy and communion with you; so that all that we do and all that we say may flow from your divine life abiding in us. Amen.

Check-in in Small Group:

Using the process of mutual invitation as outlined in “Getting Started: Meeting Jesus” begin the check-in process with your group.

  • When did you feel particularly close to God/Jesus/Holy Spirit this week?
  • How was the process of journaling? What surprised you? (N.B. this is a question about process “How did journaling/praying go for you?” not content “What did you journal about?”)

Small Group Activity:

In this activity participants will see patterns in their spiritual life as they make a chart of their ups and downs with their relationship with God. Participants will be invited to share a portion of their chart with the group.

Distribute paper to participants. Invite them to turn the paper to landscape orientation, and draw a line across the middle of the paper. Label one end “Birth” and the other end “Now.” Ask them mark major life events on the horizontal line. After participants have done that, invite them to write “Close to God” at the top of the paper, and “Away from God” at the bottom of the paper. Now ask them to chart their relationship with God as closer or further away at different times in their life. They are not judging these moments, merely observing. No one will be asked to share their chart unless they would like to.

When everyone has completed the exercise your group can proceed in two ways: Either participants may identify a time on their chart and talk about it, or they can identify the highest or lowest parts of their chart and talk about them. What was it like to be close to or far away from God at that moment? Why were they there? What made that experience stand out?

For more options for small group activities, be sure to check out the Teen, Young Adult and Older Adult curricula.

Small Group Conversation:

Small group conversation time is the heart of your work together as a small group. Sharing our personal stories and accounts of faith is only possible in an atmosphere of trust and mutuality. Tips for a fruitful conversation can be found here [link).

Here are some questions to get your conversation started. You may move through all of them, or get stuck in deep conversation with the first question you ask. You may choose to ask your own question that speaks to the needs of your group. What matters is that participants are engaged with each other. Because these questions are based on the experience of the Living God, they are unique to each person. There is no right or wrong answers, there is only further discussion and exploration of our relationship with God and one another.

Discussion Questions:

The word intimate is from the Latin, intimare, “to make known.” To be intimate, one must really know the other. What is the process of becoming intimate with someone? How long does it take? What sort of relationships create intimacy? (Emphasize that group members should be using “I” or “me” statements, not broad generalizations.)

What does it feel like to be intimate with someone? How do people act differently when they are close with one another?

In the introduction to Week Three, the brothers write: “Knowing that this intimacy [with God] is possible is one thing; realizing that it is essential to our life and fruitfulness is another. It is a gift to be treasured and nurtured.” Can you tell a story about a time when you learned to be more intimate with God?

How are you actively encouraging intimacy with others and with God? How are you actively or passively discouraging intimacy with others and with God?

Jesus had an innate special connection with God, but Jesus also actively fostered intimacy with God through time spent alone praying. What are some of ways you have learned to create space for your relationship with God?

For other discussion questions, be sure to check out the Teen, Young Adult, and Older Adult curricula.


Invite group members to share feedback with each other by using one of these prompts:

  • Where did the group have a lot of energy? Where was the energy lacking?
  • Where did you feel close to God? Where did you feel far away from God?
  • Where did you meet Jesus in your session today?
  • Where did you see light from the Holy Spirit?
  • What did you notice about our time together?
  • [If short on time!] Please describe our time together in one word.

Housekeeping details:

  • Remind group members to continue journaling.
  • Remind participants that videos are available online and that they can participate in the social media conversation at #MeetingJesus or on Facebook.


About ten minutes before the end of your time together, the groups should come back together. Whoever is responsible for running worship should prepare before worship before the session. Here are some tips and pointers:

Worship is the time we give thanks to God for all the gifts of our life and for our time together. Because Meeting Jesus in the Gospel of John is a gift of the Society for Saint John the Evangelist, a monastic order in the Episcopal church, we recommend using the Daily Office, which is a cornerstone of monastic life.

Daily Devotions for Individuals and Families, found on pages 136-140 of the Book of Common Prayer, offers a wonderful and simple framework for your prayer time together. You may choose to use the recommended psalms and readings found in the BCP; supplement with our recommended readings; prayers and songs; or choose your own. Hymns may be sung a capella, or read as poetry. Be sure to make time for prayer intercessions, and encourage the group to pray for one another and loved ones.

For the week of Close to the Father’s Heart, we recommend:

  • Scripture: John 5:19-24
  • Hymn: Take my life, and let it be (Hymnal 1982 #707) Loving Spirit (Wonder, Love and Praise #742)
  • Collect: Jesus, just as you lived in intimate union and daily communion with your “Father,” so draw us to yourself in love that we may live in this same intimacy and communion with you; so that all that we do and all that we say may flow from your divine life abiding in us. Amen.

If your group is meeting in the evening, you may also wish to use the service of Compline, found on page 127. This is a brief, beautiful, and very popular service.

Your worship leader may wish to do something more creative or context-specific, like use another liturgy, lead a meditation, invite participants into silence, lead participants in song, or use prayer beads together. There are many other ways to worship God. Taking into consideration the theme for the week, we invite you to explore what that might look like together.